are you to blame for your husband’s cheating

The first thing that most women in your shoes do when you find out your husband is cheating is start asking questions. You ask this one question: “are you to blame for your husband’s cheating?” in particular. You are not to blame for his cheating.
Could you have done things differently? Of course you could have. Would they have changed the outcome?
Maybe.
Maybe not.
But playing the blame game with your heart on the chopping block certainly won’t change the outcome.
The truth of the matter is that your husband is a big boy. He knows what’s right and what’s wrong and he knew the risk he was taking when he cheated. You now have the task of figuring out whether or not you are willing or able to forgive him for the act.
More importantly, you have to decide whether or not you can forgive yourself. No matter how much anyone tells you it isn’t your fault there is going to be a small part of you that carries the blame close and won’t relinquish it.
As hurt, angry, and disappointed as you are with your husband, you are all those things and more with yourself. Here are a few things you can do that will help you put things into proper perspective so you can make the move towards healing for yourself and your marriage after your husband cheats. More importantly, learn that you are not to blame for your husband’s cheating.